It's a common sense but needs emphasis in the modern scenario where in nearness between any relationship is turning into a true but unfortunate physical, mental, and social distance. Everyday newspapers and TV media are highlighting this cruel fact about decreasing sense of humanity. One of the main reasons for this is undue and uncalled interference of people in another's life. However, the irony is more severe enough when a person misperceives real concern and care of loved ones as interference in his/her life, a sort of delusion which ends in broken relationships. Both situations are unfortunate and increase the distance in relationships. Here I want to insist on understanding this hair line difference between real and perceived interference to avoid undue conflict in relationships.
Theme of today's post came in my mind after reading one story in a book entitled "Panchtantra" which I bought at Delhi Airport yesterday. The story was of a monkey who became curious looking a wood log floating on a river. He jumped on the log and was enjoying bumps. He called his friends also who could not agree with him. Actually the wood log was in half-cut position left by the workers going before lunch with a piece of small piece of wood so that they could restart cutting the wood from half-cut position. The monkey was putting his one leg into the cut part. Due to the continuous jumping of the monkey the small piece of wood got outside of the log and it jammed monkey 's leg into it leaving him into sever pain. Looking at his terrible painful condition the other monkeys ran away out of fear. He had no option except to wait for the workers to rescue him. The moral lesson is that we shall neither interfere in others' lives unduly nor misperceive others ' loving care and concern as interference.
So TRAIN YOUR MIND to remain in positive orientation of putting no undue interference in others' life and to prevent yourself from misjudging others 'true loving care and concern as interference. I am sure you will find yourself enjoying good relationships with everyone.
Enjoy days always ahead in true sensitivity towards maintaining nearness in relationships.
22nd May, 2023 Dr. Ajawani's Psychologist HAPPINESS CLINIC
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