EVERYONE NEEDS APPRECIATION

Recently one client had called me to seek professional help. He has severe conflicts with his elder brother who is very hard worker and ambitious too. Comparing himself with his elder brother the client has lots of complexes leading to very poor motivation to work comparably to his elder brother. I feel his felt satisfaction with very low level of life style and very philosophical attitude are sort of defense mechanisms to avoid hurting himself. During discussion I could come to know that the main source of extremely low level of motivation of the client to work for high achievement and good life-style was due to absence of appreciation from his elder brother who probably never felt appreciating his younger brother because he felt no base for that. And here is real cause of conflicts and maladaptive behaviour of the client with his elder brother. The whole family dynamic is jeopardized due to maladptive behaviour of the two key family members.

It is not the only example but has been frequently observed in all sphere of human life and in all relationships ie, parent - child ,wife- husband , teacher- student , employer - employee, senior - junior, counselor - client and so on.

A well evidenced psychological fact is that if someone is needed to be motivated ,then he/she must be appreciated as it is one's one of basic needs. Appreciation is the first desirable and effective way through which a person can be motivated.

So TRAIN YOUR MIND to remain in positive orientation of appreciating people around you to lead them towards desirable goals and establishing good relationship with you.

Enjoy days always ahead in mindful sensitivity towards appreciating people in your relationships.

5th October, 2024 Dr.Ajawani's Happiness Clinic,