Last month a mother had visited my clinic with her 10 years old daughter. She briefed me that her daughter is not intelligent girl. On assessing intelligence with the help of a social maturity scale I had found that her social age was 2 years ahead of her biological age. She secured above 95 percent in her last exam. But the mother did not tell anybody about her daughter's outstanding performance fearing that people will be jealous to her and she may not be able to achieve again such a high percentage in future exam. This is one of the common stereotype in Indian scenerio that, " logon ki nazar lag jaygi". I had to explain the mother in length abiut negative side effects of this stereotype on the future achievements of the daughter in the absence of appropriate reinforcement.
She is not the only person who had this stereotype. Infact most people hide their admirable possession due to fear of others ' evil eyes and fear that their happiness will be seized due to other's jealous behaviour.
Among youth specially girls have jealousy on other's comparative beauty, in general most youth feel jealous on physical possessions of others. Infact there are innumerable cases of jealousy and very unfortunately a lot persons tend to harm others with whom they feel jealous. Psychologically jealousy is a normal emotion but when it turns to be perverted, it leads to abnormal or unhealthy state of mind which forces such perverted jealous persons to indulge in antisocial or sometimes criminal behaviours.
A much better option is to feel delighted at others' happiness which not only spread happiness around us but also makes us feel happy deep inside. Infact it is a sign of healthy mind.
So TRAIN YOUR MIND to remain in positive orientation of expressing your true happiness on others' happy state. I am sure you always be enjoying healthy mind state deep inside.
Enjoy days always ahead in true love for other's happiness.
21st April, 2023 Dr. Ajawani's Psychologist HAPPINESS CLINIC
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