Today I will try to reflect on a specific situation wherein silence plays a vital role. Now a days impulse control disorder is a major issue . Keeping silence is the best remedy for it. One of my clients told me that her husband abused her verbally very badly. It hurt her too much . I advised her to keep silence and ignore her husband's taboo behaviour even when he insults her in front of other persons. In this way she will be able to use her silence as her controlled strength and she will be able to resist her husband in a resilient manner. In general , her near and dear ones considered her silent behaviour as her weakness but it is not true. I am sure very soon she will be a true winner and her husband will stop using taboo language just like a barking dog stops barking when it does not observe any panic response from the person on whom it is barking . There is no need to curse
a garbage of a gutter smelling very pungent manner. It is always better to cross it at earliest keeping the nose tightly closed - a silent state of our olfactory sense. However , this process shall be a mindful behaviour ,that is, we shall at times protest such taboo behaviour in soft but firm verbal behaviour . I am sure the other person will feel internal threat and will surely stop verbal abuse .There is a moral lesson stated in Hindi scripture ,that is," ATI KA BHALA NA BOLNA, ATI KI BHALI NA CHUP. ATI KA BHALA NA BARASNA , ATI KI BHALI NA DHOOP. Meaning that extreme behaviour is not good rather it shall always be mindful with silent and firm resistance.
So TRAIN YOUR MIND to remain in positive orientation of maintaining a mindful firm silence to resist any taboo verbal behaviour.
Enjoy days always ahead in true love for mindful SILENCE.
11th June , 2014 Dr.Ajawani's Happiness Clinic
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