YOUR SPOUSE IS NOT A THERAPIST

Whenever I had sessions with married couples, one peculiar thing I have observed is that one of the person either husband or wife was playing role of a forced therapist . I meant to say that ,for example, wife expects all the time that her husband shall not only understand her complexes, choices , emotional state ,desires , and mood fluctuations but also helps her to soothe at times she expects and that too without sharing all her mental state with him. It is truly an undue burden on the husband and may lead to severe conflicts between the two . Similar scenario is there when the husband forces his wife to play role of a therapist and becomes heavily dependent on his wife putting her in severe frustration as , culturally , society and the family members too do not cherish this state of affairs between wife and husband . Here I never meant to undermine the important role of emotional supporter of a wife to her husband. Always remember that it is the most loving relationship of wife and husband which requires mutual understanding and unconditional socio-emotional support to lead a loving happy marital life. Don't let anyone be forced to be a therapist.

So ,TRAIN YOUR MIND to remain in positive orientation of nurturing a mind set of mindful role playing in your all relationships instead of forcing the partner a therapist.

Enjoy days always ahead in true love for mindful understanding for each other in your all relationships.

6th September, 2024 Dr.Ajawani's Happiness Clinic